Live Blog – Over

Random snippets of my day. Thoughts. Events. Songs. Stuff. Shall we?

After you..

Things I REALLY HATE WITH A PASSION: People telling me what to do. People calling me crazy. I've been to enough mental health professionals of whom I asked, Am I, in fact, crazy?

Nope. Just regular kick in the balls depression. Oh and a big case of the I DON'T GIVE A FUCKING SHIT ABOUT YOU OR MAKING YOU HAPPY AND IF YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH TOO FUCKING BAD BRO -itis.

Yesterday was one of the worst days of my life. Literally. Top five, hands down. August tends to be a bad month for me historically. And yes, I'm serious.

Fresh air, Bastille's Wild World, and THC saved my life today. Period. End stop.

Dan Smith of said Bastille arranges words in a way that makes me say "fuck!" out loud as a jealous writer. And admirer.

"You make me laugh until I die. Can you think of any better way to choke?"

Fuck you, Dan Smith and your little crooked front tooth I love so much.

Wondering now if "Fuck yeah it is!!" wasn't the correct response to the young person at the DD drive thru when she said, "Great song!" after I pulled up semi-blaring Michael Jackson's 'Billie Jean'…

It totally was. It was right at a really bitchin' part.

Fuck yeah it is, Millenial. The likes of which you've never seen before or will again.

Speaking of that … I secretly love Trump's calling out NK. Either put up or shut up. And whatever they have, the USA has more, better, faster, deadlier, etc. We wouldn't even have to actually send people there. It could be a parking lot in minutes.

Driving, the Linkin Park song came on…I tried so hard and got so far but in the end it doesn't even matter.

You know who knows that? Fucking Linkin Park!

And me. I know in the end it all doesn't matter. But there are weird, quirky things that fucking matter to me. They fucking matter. And yet that matters to nobody! It's madness.

And if you don't mind, I'm going to have MY feelings, which I have every right to have, until it doesn't fucking matter anymore and I'm dead.

I think it's time for some Drake, I think..

Stay…tuned…for more thoughts…

(Having this on phone is dangerous!)

I love Mexican food.

Update, two people visited the live blog. Lovely.

Anywho, radio gods didn't let me down after I finally shut off Bastille for good.

My Prerogative – Bobby Brown

They say I'm crazy, I really don't care. That's my prerogative (btw I'm really not, the doctors said so).

Then: she's a beauty! A one in A million girl! Why would I lie?

Don't fall in love! If you do then you'll find out she don't love you!

Great 80's song. I wonder if it was in a movie? For some reason I have a strong connection to that song. Don't know why.

Then….you guys, radio gods gave me Ice Cube! Cuz big dicks in your mouth is bad for your health!

Words to live by really.

Home. Excited to kick back and watch Bill Maher from last night. I was too busy watching LivePD. Which you have to watch if you aren't already. It's on tonight on a&e. You're welcome.

This came today! Woooooo!

Luke, The Last Jedi, AND fall movie preview? I'm in. But after Real Time.

One of my biggest pet peeves is when someone says or writes "First" then NEVER uses "Second" and "Third." The CEO at Google just did it. And you just can't do it. What is happening to grammar and language in general?

11:05PM btw

Another pet peeve…men who don't get their neck hair line thing cleaned up. You can pop into any barber or Super Cuts to get it done. Cheaply. But noooooo… You get to be Wolfman but I have to be smooth as a dolphin. And you don't do that, not manscape?

Well, Saturday is over. Usually I stay up late on Saturday but I'm ready to hit the hay. Super emotional couple of days. Draining. More days like that ahead.

Good night. Thanks for letting me share some brain with you.


Sugar, Spice, and Everything Nein!!

Somehow I ended up on a blast email about Estate Sales. I’ve only been to a couple in my lifetime. But I like to look at upcoming sales: Always keeping an eye out for Disney stuff for the collection.

So, bingo, you guys. Look!

A vintage Mickey Mouse Toy. Cool!

Scroll down. Scroll down. Scroll down.

Whoa. Whoa. Whoa. Whoa.

Scroll up! Scroll up! Scroll up! Scroll up!

What the actual fuck?

Did I completely miss the part about Nazi paraphernalia in the listing?

After ferociously scrolling up, I see it.

A “nice selection of WWII memorabilia.”

A nice selection?


This is is a town where 3 people I know live.

I dunno. I feel like there’s an audience for that stuff. Weird to just kind of toss the pics in there like… No biggie. Ever hear of eBay?!

Just give people a head’s up. That’s all I’m saying.

Needless to say I will not be heading to Naziville for Mickey.

If you are wondering, he is vintage and hella creepy.


Auf wiedersehen,
Die xojmo

This is Dangerous

You guys. Having the ability to do blog stuff on my phone is wicked convenient but also dangerous. Like right now. Just in from a great night out, filled with a ton of laughs and all that good stuff blah blah blah. 

Now I’m home. Wide awake. Just washed all that makeup off and now I’m just straight up chilling. Thinking that this is a good idea. To just type whatever I want. 

And I’m vaping. Still recovering from the burning ash debacle from two weeks ago. I have this goofy scar thing which is super notable since I’m tan but my … What’s like not a bad burn number? Second degree? Totally not going to look that up. Anyway, I have a pink pot mark right in the middle of my chest! And then I rub at it. It’s a whole thing. 

Ok anyway. Where was I? This is only doable since I downloaded the Swype app for my iPhone. The app sucks. I miss the Swipe keyboard on my old HTC One. That phone ruled. And that swipe keyboard was smart. This one sucks. So if there are any blatant typos it’s the stupid app. And I’m stoned and rubbing my keyboard like a pervert. 

You know what I don’t like? People. But more specifically, people who aren’t real. Who aren’t themselves. Around me. Because what happens is, I end up liking fake you. And real you sucks. Lying jerk. (This is toward no one in particular)

I think I’m totally real with people. I know when to be polite and all that shit but what you see…er… Experience? Yeah. You experience me is what you get. And sometimes it’s boring. Then fast. Then shit goes sideways. I don’t lie about it. It’s a lot. I’m a lot. 

But I’m okay with it. As much as I dislike me, no one loves me more than me. Trust me! Me me me! Haha. But sometimes when I’m with someone I lose me. What happens? Where do I go? Hidden. Worried. I need to be nurtured. 

This is so boring. Sorry to the seven of you that got this in your email and you actually read it.  

I refuse to lose myself over something so stupid. I know what I want. I deserve what I want. I mean, besides the snow white Escalade, I don’t want for much. Okay, one expensive LEGO set. But it’s Disney. And that’s like God to me. You won’t buy me a LEGO set of GOD?! Jesus Christ. 

This kinda went off the rails but I think that’s fun. I love fun. I don’t have enough fun! I love road trips. And surprises. And balloons, for some reason. But not in any weird way. Fucking balloons (Yes, Swype, add “fucking” to the dictionary. Haven’t we already done this already?!). Who even knows that about me? I think my sister does. But literally no one else. And not because I keep it secret.  Sad! 

I want to say so much more, but it would flow so much easier from my fingers on an actual keyboard. And JMo won’t be moving towards the desk anytime soon. And yes I still use a PC. I have a laptop but it’s so hard to type with my nails. Which would look hella fresh on the steering wheel of my ‘lade.     Sorry 

I’m shut off. Of this. But I’m gonna stay up late and watch TV … what a naughty Friday night. 

Not balloon animals, no. Floating balloons. 


Writer’s Block

Admittedly, my last post was a huge bummer. But I’ve moved on (For now. Duh, you guys. I’ll rain on my own parade soon enough. Chillax!) and recently read something about happiness positivity blah blah blah … Every night before bed, write down three good things that happened to/for you that day. 

And I thought, that sounds incredibly easy, which is right up my alley AND it couldn’t hurt, right? 

I could use a whole bunch of positivity in my life, and perhaps if I simply ponder about all the good things that happen to me throughout my day, and to choose just three… How will I choose just 3?!

You guys know me. I’m honest. And I can honestly tell you that I can’t even conjur up more than one. Yes, one actual good thing happened to me today. Someone I care about asked me to dinner. It was a nice surprise at the end the day. 

But other than that, nothing. 

The bad stuff, sure. 

It’s six days into June and it was 48 degrees. I don’t live in Alaska. 

It was both rainy and windy. 

I walked three blocks in the cold, windy rain to Au Bon Pain to get their specific Southwest Chicken Salad. 

There were none in the pre-made refrigerated case, but there was a sign that said all salads can be custom made at the counter. 

I got in line behind one woman with three small children crawling all over her. This woman never stopped ordering food. I’m not joking. I waited a long time for having been the second person in line. 

When it was my turn to order, I ordered the Southwest Chicken Salad which is on the menu. And the sign in the refrigerated case said they could make salads at the counter. 

The employee told me they didn’t have anymore. 

I gently referred to the sign in the refrigerated case. 
And the employee told me, “The girl who makes the salads left for the day.” It was 2:00pm. 

I left the Au Bon Pain and walked three blocks back to work in the cold, windy rain.

What about any of that is remotely positive?! 

I know!!

I walked six blocks today, y’all!

Thanks for reading! Isn’t “Block” a weird word the longer you look at it? I wish I could’ve named this blog “Writer’s Cock Block” but it really makes no sense. Can you go follow me on Twitter? That could be the third good thing: more Followers. 


Danger, Will Robinson!

If you don’t know me, don’t sweat it! No one else really does either.  And I kind of like it that way. I realize that may make me weird. But I’ve been called “weird” before, so I’m trying to own it.

Anyone who really truly knows me (kinda sorta) would be able to tell the rest of you though that when it comes to JMo…it can be complicated.

Almost like I should come with a warning: PROCEED WITH CAUTION!

And recently I posted something of which I’m not extremely proud.  But it came from me. I have that monster living inside of me. And what that post does is remind me that I can dish it out but I can’t take it.

No, you read that right. I can’t take it. So what I’m going to try to do is list some SOME of my many faults to somehow even things with Karma or whatever.

Or maybe it’s just to say, I already know how terrible I am! I’m #1 at criticizing myself. No one is better at it than me!

I’m ugly. He was right. I am a 7. That’s probably too generous. I’ll tell you why:

I have a Ted Kennedy, the older years, type of nose. No, I’m not a Kennedy nor an alcoholic. It’s just big. A big honking nose. My college roommate hid pictures she and her friends drew of me, but I saw them anyway. I won’t say what the picture was exactly, but it accentuated my nose and what’s more truthful than a bunch of people who think you’ll  never see this caricature?  So, there, yes I have a big nose, and I know you all know. Next!

Like my nose, everything about me is big. Seriously. Everything from my curly hair, to my big old bug eyes, to my toothy grin, and droopy old lady boobs and … yeah my body. I’ve lost SO much weight, but I’m still fat by society’s standards. And I don’t care that much. I mean, I do! Obviously. But there isn’t much I can do about it. So, yes I know everything is a mess. Except my nails. Elephant Man + nice nails = me. The movie not the play.

Ok, so I described my gross, fat, yet groomed and bathed physical body. SORRY! I can’t do much about it now. Be thankful I’m covering it up though! No one needs to see me in a crop top.


Literally this robot has a hotter and tighter body than I do.

Right, what’s next. Fuck. This is harder than I thought. Is it weird how easy it was to put down my physical looks, but having harder time calling out my MANY other shortcomings?

I’m forward. I’m quiet. I’m naive. I’m a huge bitch. I have a bad attitude. I forget to say “Thank you” at the worst times. I’m mentally unbalanced. I’m physically unhealthy. I got into a screaming match with a woman much younger than me inside Epcot. I only stopped because she walked away (of course!! I’m a hideous behemoth. Look at me!) and I did not want to go to Disney jail. I swear a lot. I cry a lot. I don’t remember much at all from my childhood (red flags right?). I’m damaged. I was broken so badly once, I didn’t think I could put the pieces back together. I trust too easily. I trust for too long.

And lastly, (Look I said SOME things. I can’t list everything! I’m already weeping as it is!) –

When someone gets to know me and I trust them with nuggets of my life, good and bad, and I let them in and open up and trust they will not hurt me – I always get hurt. And then it becomes my mission to burn our bridge as brightly as possible. But just know, behind that bonfire is ugly me. Crying. Failing at life. Again.

Hey, Happy Friday you guys!



Not the Worst

It should come as no surprise to the few of you who have read my blog in the past that I’m incredibly hard on myself and an expert at overall sucking at life.

But today, I don’t want this to be about me per se, but rather about someone else. As luck would have it, I was putting together some stuff for charity and I came across one of my old journals. Don’t worry, the charity cases won’t be getting the mindless musings of this basket case!

A while back, JMo had met someone and we were talking/dating… from start to finish… 3-4 months.  He wasn’t my usual type, but honestly, what type do I even have anymore? A strong pulse is good.

But you know what? That is bullshit because you know what I did in my journal? I KNOW how I am about things. Once time passes I tend to wax poetic about all the great stuff. But yeah, the old JMo knew to keep a detailed log about all the things I DIDN’T like or appreciate about said man.  So now we can deduce what my type is, I guess.

“Man” knows about this blog and had commented in the past about how he was surprised I hadn’t written anything about him yet (Ok, ego.) and his only request is not to use his name. No prob. I’ll do him one better: I won’t mention his occupation either.

Since I cannot use his real name, I’ll be referring to this guy as Reggie.

Reggie and I met online but it was not through a dating site.  I think that was something else he didn’t want people to know. Whatever, Reg. Now the whole world knows (except it’s more like the two randos that visit my blog on a daily basis).

So we talked a bit online first and then texting and I have to say, that is when I found myself getting really interested in this guy.  He used grammar and punctuation!  Impressive vocabulary.  Could be funny sometimes. Nice. Nice. Immediately…why is he single? Oh ok, why is he divorced? Hmm, ok… Let’s do this!

The sweetest thing he ever said to me was on our first date. I refuse to write it here in case he reads this. He probably doesn’t even remember he said it. AFTER our first date I emailed a friend saying “He’s super sweet but the date was pretty forgettable. I’ll see where it goes.” Yikes.

Needless to say, JMo broke it off with Reggie but it took a few months.

Let me rewind a little bit. Let me give you some info about him that he GAVE to me before we even met.  I mean, WHY talk about this?

  • He once got oral sex from a woman whose name he did not know in a public bathroom of a bar in a city.
  • How much money he makes a year (happened to be twice as much as my salary and I get paid fairly well), how much money he pays in child support, how much his new house by the water cost (and how much he got the guy to knock off the price since they shared the same profession AND he even worked in the address – probably so I could look it up on Zillow), how much money his father “loaned” him because his family is rich, how much money he has loaned his ex-wife, and the kicker:  Women should pay just as much when it comes to dating. (Yes, thank you for making me feel super awkward about this forever instead of just waiting to find out for yourself what kind of woman I am when it comes to money. And I definitely could pay sometimes, but you make $XXX,XXX a year so you can afford more. Also, basically told me twice in roundabout ways how I can easily look up exactly how much money he makes. So yeah, if one of us had money on the brain, it was not me. But let’s keep a in this because MONEY will come up again.
  • Cheated on his wife with many women, and then fell into a long relationship with one of the mistresses. This of course was not an ideal thing to learn, however I don’t judge people right off the bat for that. He claimed he changed and he’s certainly not my ex-husband. PLUS, the fact that he was a man-whore definitely helped in the bedroom department. Thanks, sluts!

So yeah, I knew all of those not-at-all-red-flags before we met, but the texting…I was addicted. It was stimulating. Brain stuff, you pervs! So of course I wanted more.

But the in person thing…where does the vocabulary go? And he has a very strong accent, that makes me sound like a southern belle. And it’s not a sexy French accent or anything.  It’s almost like someone having a very thick Brooklyn accent but they didn’t grow up there.  Is that something?

So now you might be asking, JMo, what about looks? We know you have a type there. Start with the things you liked:

  • Smooth skin
  • Lovely neck/shoulder area
  • Muscly legs
  • Full head of thick brown hair
  • Luscious lips
  • Taller than me

Obviously, these things are not deal breakers. I’ve dated all types and sizes;  my ex-husband happens to look like Cher’s transgender son, Chaz Bono. So…there. And believe me, I’m no sexy hot lady person, or anything. As he told me, I’m (me, real life JMo) is a 7 on a scale of 1-10. Which, I guess I should be happy about that? I know I’m not a 9 or 10 but I’m guessing the dude I’m seeing should at least give me an 8 because I’m funny, sweet, sarcastic, thoughtful, oh and I touch his private parts…etc. But remember when I said he said something sweet to me on our first date…that was it. I never got anything after that…only “you smell nice” or “your hair looks nice.”  Thanks? You are so romantic…

…NOT.  He has ZERO romantic bones in his body. And this was what eventually killed it for me.  During our time together there were occasions where gifts are usually exchanged. And even though it was early in our “relationship” whatever it was, I wanted to give to him and picked thoughtful things. And he picked zero things.  Not even a card.

And it’s not just about occasions. I don’t want to be labeled a woman who needs an Arbor Day gift, but jesus, how about a high-five just because? One flower? How about a note left in my door while you know I’m at work and would love to find it when I got home? Fuck occasions! Just make me feel special. Listen, my first boyfriend, Tony, real name, not fake like Reg, wrote me letters and poems on his bus rides to his H.S. hockey games, and he would take me to playoff games at the Garden where we would sit in the front row. I was 15. So that set the bar high. 

Yeah I like being wined and dined, but without the wine and with more of the “hey, dummy, let me show you that I care.”

Seriously though, Reggie, if you are reading this (still, huh? See, you are self-absorbed): After thinking about it for a long time, I realized why being wooed or romanced was important to me. Because HOW do you differentiate me, the woman you are dating, from your “women friends?” Especially since some of them are exes. So Me and your Exes get treated the exact same way? Oh except you aren’t sleeping with them but then again maybe you are because you already admitted to being a cheater so that’s at 50/50 right now. Yeah, sorry, NOT a big fan of that.

I love to treat my man special. Give him things to smile about throughout his day. Not every day but you know. But damn, I got nothing. Diddly squat. And I’m not exaggerating. Yes, I would get an occastional meal or coffee but that is it (because you know I had to pay for half of everything!). No cards. No email cards! Nothing.  I want to be special! Is that too much to ask? (the answer is Yes, apparently.)

Ok, I’m getting bored so I’m going to plow through the remainder of the list I made way back when about Reg, so I wouldn’t forget all the things I disliked about him when I started to remember the things I did like about him: his ability to put words together and the stuff he did in bed (sorry KB).

Never saw The Godfather, talked about his ex-wife after sex so frequently I think she would be shocked at all the stuff I know about her, drinks a lot, enjoys watching wrestling, was a cheater and a whore, served me tap water when he clearly has a water bubbler*, unsexy car (not looking for a BMW but how about a Jeep from this decade or something), constant multiple dirty litter boxes as well as animal vomit dried up everywhere, furniture from the street, lack of air conditioning in the summer, sang certain songs at the top of his lungs anywhere and everywhere and then criticized all music he did not like, weird sounds during climax, the nipple thing (not mine), had the girth but no length, not a Star Wars fan, cheap, made me cry in front of him, I could tell when he wasn’t listening to me (which was often) & it hurt my feelings the most when I was talking about my niblings), self-absorbed, used his kid as an excuse not to communicate or for his crappy attitude, never heard of Stranger Things, his literal fear in life is being alone yet never thought it a good idea to spoil his women because it wasn’t just me, he was what I coined as “comfortably racist,” we once won at a team event and he did not split the prize with me even though I tried to take part of it and he just took it back – so he literally never gave me anything, aaaaand never shut the fuck up – he is a bona fide “me monster.”

I actually left off a couple, believe it or not. Part of me feels bad, but to be honest, he needs to know what he’s up against out there if he’s going to venture out into the dating world as a balding, beer gutted divorced dad who isn’t romantic or thoughtful? And you don’t like texting or checking in (could go days without it????) but texting is your best quality.

You’ll get someone eventually but it won’t be me. After listing all your wonderful qualities, it truly     will be    my loss.


P.S. I would like to dedicate this horrible piece of blogging/humanity to the few people in my life that helped me through my emotions and got what I was trying to say when I wasn’t being a bitch about it.

P.P.S. No, I do not read everyone to filth on my blog. In fact, besides shitting on myself and maybe calling out some liars, I don’t think I’ve ever been this harsh. But it’s the truth. And I need to remind myself of that. You weren’t the worst, but you were not worth the time I spent thinking about you. Damn it.

P.P.S. Actually I was the victim of some hate recently (which will be a future post) and maybe I’m just lashing back from that. Although Reggie wasn’t the hater, but since I’m not using his real name or anything, I feel like it’s okay. Almost like I made it all up?

* I actually drink tap water. I’m not a water snob.

Is it too much to ask?

I wrote two whole paragraphs and then just deleted them.  I can tell there is a lot on my mind and my proverbial tongue when that happens. It’s like I want to write about everything, but unlike James Joyce I cannot pull off the stream of consciousness without proper punctuation.

So yeah, I can’t go 2-5 days without talking to someone I care about; I learned that this week. EVEN if we have nothing exciting to say. Connection is important to me. As is simple acknowledgement. Even if it’s a “Hey, I looked out the window and thought of you.” I especially like to speak to a new interest in my life fairly often. And cannot compute when that person does not want to do the same. It doesn’t necessarily equate to “He doesn’t like me,” but inside is surely equates to “He doesn’t really care enough.”  And new interests? Isn’t it supposed to be about NEW? New flirty emails or texts? New “Can’t wait to see you again. When are you free? Kiss me in the moonlight!” romantic last-minute type stuff. I don’t think it’s asking too much. I mean, the best love poems/sonnets/songs are not written about two people who never see each other, never talk to each other, feel ambivalent towards one another, don’t look into each others’ eyes, and don’t communicate for a week. I mean, I know I’m getting OLD, but cripes….I still like to be romanced and wanted. Like Cheap Trick sang: “I want you to want me.” (And I’m not saying that is a great love song. Not by any means.)

But then again, maybe the best times aren’t in the beginning? Although in a lot of my relationships the beginning was the best. So maybe if I put in the grunt work now, I’ll get rewarded with a super awesome relationship in the end? I’m not really sure. Doubtful. I feel a bit helpless. I’ve never been told I’m not a priority in someone’s life when they are a priority in mine. So then I think, when should I make someone a priority? How do I turn that switch off in my brain? I would love to switch shit off in my brain. Can someone make that happen ASAP?

And lastly, I don’t want a puppet. I don’t want a carbon copy of me. But I want someone who is invested and wants to surprise me and actively tries to get me to smile and giggle. I want that person to look at me when I’m talking to them, even though there is a TV in the room. I want him to hug me and tell me everything is going to be ok. And I want him to… oh well, what does it matter? Maybe I shouldn’t want so much. Is it too much to ask?





There was a time when I read a lot for fun.  Then there was a time when I read a lot for school.  Then there was a time where I tried to read for fun again.  But by now, I just could not concentrate on a page. I switched from fiction to non-fiction, which I enjoyed a lot, but it still could not keep my attention. I think I had read all the words I was meant to read in my lifetime.

Still longing for knowledge, I switched over to documentaries.  I wrote about one long ago but it still gets comments to this day. You should check it out! (I believe it’s still on HBO)

Where was I? Oh right: Documentaries.  It’s like reading for your brain, without the reading. Moving pictures and words spoken on-screen – it’s amazing. And now with things like Netflix and Hulu, I have access to many more documentaries. Although the ones on Hulu mostly contain aliens and 9/11 conspiracies. *shrug*

I’ve watched A LOT of documentaries on Netflix. And I kept passing one that Netflix recommended. It’s sort like, remember that scene in Pee Wee’s Big Adventure when he’s saving the animals from the fire but he keeps passing the snakes and making that face. Well, that is what I was doing when I saw the title: KINK.

First off, I’m not a prude. Second off, I can tell my the accompanying picture exactly what this is going to be about: the fetish of bondage. I’m NOT well versed in the fetish of bondage and God knows I’m NOT going to read a book about it. So on to KINK it is!

And before I dive into the world of BDSM, let me clear something up that no one is thinking about: I did NOT watch Fifty Shades of Gray on Netflix. So that’s not why the recommendation came up. In fact, I never even saw the movie. I’m not a middle-aged horny housewife. I’m just middle aged and horny! And I don’t need a movie studio spoon-feeding me soft core porn, thank you very much.

Ok BDSM, is uh….Bondage…uh…Hold on. Gotta go look it up.

“BDSM is short for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadomasochism.”

I’m already disinterested but I’m sticking with the documentary because hey, why not? S&M didn’t scare me off, but James Franco as the producer almost did.

The documentary features behind-the-scenes footage of videos of both men and women tied up by ropes, drowned in bathtubs, being shocked in the genitals by an electric wand, and being penetrated by a plethora of DIY industrial-strength “fuck machines.”

I’m not going to get into all of it, but yeah it definitely had some porno stuff in it. So if that’s not your thing, don’t watch it. If it is your thing, too bad. This is a documentary, you perv!

What I liked about it:  The people who work at seems like nice people I could hang around with. And it comes across that they truly care about their … actors? Sure we’ll go with that.  Actors. They have safe words and all that jazz and ALWAYS talk up front about what is going to be in the scene so you aren’t like “Whoa hey! What the?” That was cool.

What I didn’t like: The actual BDSM stuff. I would do a check-in with my libido to see if anything was stirring and it was like “Nah, I’m good.”  Which made the movie even more interesting because I’m watching it like I was watching any documentary – very seriously.

There was one scene…this lady was hanging upside down with a leather collar and chain, chaining her to the floor, hands tied behind her back and her ankles were bound, apart on some bar/pole hanging from the ceiling. And she had a machine between her legs which was giving her pleasure.

At one point the director calls cut and informs her he did so because her eyes were rolling in the back of her head and she was moving her body too much so he wanted to give her rest. But at no point unchained her neck nor brought her down from that pole! She didn’t seem to mind though.

So that’s it… would I recommend it…Not really. Unless you were really curious about that type of thing…then go for it. Why not? You aren’t hurting anyone by watching it. And all parties involved in the movie had given permission. And no one died!

That would be a snuff film.



Working Title

I realize that life is hard for a lot of people.  I’m certainly not the 1%. Hell, I’m probably not even in the 60% (Don’t ask me. I’m bad at math).  But the LAST thing anyone should ever do is look at me and say that I have it easy.

I was once told I live a life of leisure and for the longest time I dug that. I would repeat it. Cherish it.  Of course, I was working two or three jobs at the time. See, I don’t live to work. I work to live. Otherwise I would be homeless.  And no, I wouldn’t be living back home. There is no back home.  I once asked my mother to be my roommate and she said NO. Can you fucking believe that? I even laid out WHY I would subject us to such horrors (Look at all the money I can save for my future) and she was still like, Nopeitynopenope.

I barely keep my head above the water, above the sand, above whatever is going to strangle me to death.  I’m so lucky to have the job that I have. Is it my life long passion? No. Do I still live paycheck to paycheck? Yes, but Jesus, the cost of living around here is pretty pretty pretty high. And I live alone. Which I prefer. So no roommates for me. Not even Mommy Dearest.

So I have a huge rent. A car payment (NOT a new car. Not even close). Cable/internet/phone bill. Which I tried to get them to bring the price down and they threatened to take away my favorite precious stations. Forget it. Cable TV is the only thing I live for anymore! And the internet! (Phone…eh. Just in case my cell stops working, which reminds me…) Cell phone. And yes I have an iPhone. My first iPhone. Not my first smartphone though. So that’s expensive. What else? Oh yeah … car insurance. Renters insurance. Health insurance through work. Doctor’s bills. Oh credit card bills. Can’t forget those.

So, explain to me again how my life isn’t harder than yours. See? If I lose my job, I can’t rely on my partner to bring home the bacon while I work at Bed, Bath and Beyond for spending money. If I lose my job and work at Bed, Bath and Beyond, I’m pretty much asking to be tossed on my ass.

Ok, you have kids. And how is that hard again? Aren’t they little minions that you can make wash the dishes and fold the laundry? They are called chores. And guess who does my chores? Not my fucking kids. Cuz I don’t have any. Which is fine with me. One almost bumped into me at the mall last week and I literally vocalized disgust.

What I do have is a lot of time on my hands (now that I stopped working more than one job. For now). And I guess people mistake that for … I don’t know…carefree and fancy life. I don’t think so. I don’t have anyone to rely on. I must do everything myself. Including being my own shoulder to lean on. My own sounding board (bad idea since I’m a pessimist). My own everything.

I am NOT saying I want a husband (did that. done that.) or kids (I really don’t. At my age? Oh dear God. I’d be able to get a senior citizen discount at the movies while my kids got a junior price.)  It’s just not my bag. The only reason to want a husband is so he can pay some of these monthly bills that won’t stop! That would be nice. Otherwise, I’m all set. For now.

Not that long ago I was at the Boston Pops (look at me being fancy again!). I sat next to a girl, jeez, a woman at our age, that grew up in the same neighborhood at me and now lives in the same city as me. Except, I grew up in a fancier part of the childhood neighborhood and now live in a fancier part of the city.  And while that is true, my family was never fancy, that’s just where we ended up – when I grew up. And I ended up in this neighborhood now because YES it’s very nice and YES I drop a hefty dime to live here.  The funny thing was, the chick turned to her friend and called me out on the place I grew up and the place I live now. And for like, a second, I felt like I was some rich kid or something. And no matter how many times I said, “It’s totally not like that,” I guess it kind of is like that. Because where that chick lives now…I would not be caught dead in. No thank you.

Everyday my life is a struggle. And it sucks. Everything I do puts me further into debt. But I’m here now, at the party called life. I don’t remember RSVP’ing, and I can’t leave. So I’m trying to make the best of it.

As for my signoff, I’ve got two shows waiting for me on my DVR. I spellchecked this shit but I refuse to go back and deal with grammar. So…suck it.




I’ve been overweight my whole life.  I was forced to go to Weight Watchers, alone, at 14 years old.  And this wasn’t “count your points/real life scenario” Weight Watchers. It was measure your food into ounces/weigh your food Weight Watchers.  I was 14! I didn’t do the food shopping in my house, nor did I prepare dinner.

I’ve never been bulimic or anorexic but honestly wish I had the willpower to do it.  I still remember the very special episode of Different Strokes where Kimberly would binge eat and then some how regurgitate in the bathroom. I was only ten. I didn’t really understand it all, except I knew it kept her skinny and pretty.

I was called terrible names growing up, mostly by my own mother. I look back at pictures of me in high school and college and while I was bigger than most girls, I was by no means huge. But I was told I was. And every day of my life I thought about my weight and how other people looked at me.

I’ve lost weight. I’ve gained weight back. I’ve gained more weight. Recently, within the last year or so, I decided to stop obsessing over it. To stop caring SO FUCKING MUCH,  if you will. Listen, I know better than anyone that society and, Europeans apparently, HATES fat people.  I get the message loud and clear.  I try not to be a gross fat person. I bathe, and groom and wear makeup and make an effort not to wear mid-drift shirts at Walmart. You’re welcome.

I promise not to look like Chet from Weird Science when you see me in public. I'm not trying to gross anyone out.

I promise not to look like Chet from Weird Science when you see me in public. I’m not trying to gross anyone out.

My dream is to just fit in. Or become invisible. I honestly do not care what anyone thinks about me anymore. I’m divorced and almost 40.  Even when I was a hundred pounds lighter, I was never asked on dates. I never had a boyfriend after my divorce.

I’m on three medications whose side effects cause weight gain. Two of which are for my mental health. So if I stopped taking them to lose weight, I would be a basket case. Is that what society would rather? A non-fat crazy person walking around?

I’m not trying to offend anyone by being overweight. I’m sorry you all care so much.  The person who cares the most is my mother. But she is also the rudest about it. It’s all she talks about. I even stopped talking to her a few weeks ago, and holy shit, it’s been the best few weeks of my life. No one judging me all the time. Criticizing me all the time. Asking me over and over again, “Don’t you care?”

I used to care. I used to care a lot. But I just stopped caring. And I don’t mean for that to come off in a bad way. Listen, there are lazy skinny people. I just happen to be a lazy fat person.  I would’ve lasted longer than you skinny people in the ice age! It’s just in my genes.

I don’t have a significant other. I don’t have children. Who do I have to be thin for? Society? Oh fuck that. I go to get a physical every year. I prepare myself for my doctor to chastise me about my weight, but I ask her about my blood tests and such and guess what? I’m healthy! Can I walk up a hill without wanting to die? Nope! But my cholesterol is fine, my blood pressure is fine and I don’t have diabetes. Can it happen later in life? Sure, but so can being hit by a bus or shot at the local movie theater.

And if food makes me happy… so what? If you knew the life I had and the loneliness I’ve experienced, you would understand why I eat to comfort myself. People comfort themselves all the time… booze, drugs, sex. My drug is cake. I’m not hurting anyone.

I have ZERO desire to drink a kale shake for breakfast. I have NO desire to cut out bread and all things white in my diet. I’m happy for you if you do. But I honestly don’t care what you look like or what you do. I happily look at your P90X and Tough Mudder pictures on Facebook while I’m eating potato chips.

Earlier today, my mother told me she would rather my be a drunk than fat.  Remember that part where I told you I was healthy? Yup. It’s true. But drunks…don’t they like, have liver problems and stuff? Or even skinny people who smoke cigarettes get cancer…but it’s okay because they aren’t FAT?  Oh dear lord.

I just had to stop beating myself up over it. I’m gonna be fucking forty. I’m divorced and that whole thing sucked big time and then …like why do I have to live to make others happy?

Shouldn’t I live to make myself happy?  I’ve traveled to Europe twice. I’ve bought my own car twice. I enjoying writing and watching movies and Netflix and visiting Disney World (which I know adds a lot of jokes because I’m fat). So, why can’t I just be a happy fat person? Because you find me offensive to look at?

Sorry, but I find your open carry gun offensive to look at, mostly because it can kill me. My fat can’t kill you. It could kill me, but I don’t really care. But that’s a whole other issue…

Thanks for letting me rant. I’ve missed this,